Welcome to the Unlimited Newsletter...
I decided to do something different for this issue of The Unlimited Newsletter in honour of Mother's Day. For the first time ever, I am featuring a guest blogger. This writer is my sister-in-law.
For so many women, Mother's Day can feel bittersweet. This edition features a brave story of an infertility journey. It is not just a story for couples who have ever tried unsuccessfully to have a child. It is for any person - man or woman- who has come up against challenges and chose to look for the lessons in the hardship.
I wish my Mom a Happy Mother's Day. She is a beautiful lady with a warm heart. She possesses a soul who has no limits when it comes to protecting and caring for those she loves.
Enjoy the ride!
Chief Engagement Officer
A Childless Mother
Written by my sister-in-law, Ericka
Mother's Day is a double whammy for me. I lost my Mom when I was 12 years old to colon cancer. I miss her every day, but her absence is particularly acute on the day when we celebrate Moms and all they mean to our lives.
The loss of my Mom is compounded by my own struggles to become a Mom. More than six years of fertility treatments and I have only ever achieved three chemical pregnancies. Each of those early-term losses broke my heart. To be so close and yet so far, after months of cycling through hope and disappointment, was devastating.
My journey to motherhood - which continues-has taught me a few things. Continue reading
The Toilet Paper Scarf
My family was getting ready to attend an evening school event for my four-year-old daughter. We were running behind on this particular evening (nothing out of the ordinary for full family outings!). My four-year-old was in the bathroom while the rest of us waited impatiently by the door. She emerged from the washroom with a gigantic smile on her face. I watched her skip along to the door and out to the car, as proud as can be, with a long piece of toilet paper swung around her neck like a scarf!
I looked at my husband, and said, "Is she wearing what I think she's wearing?" He just shrugged and walked out to the car. I could feel my body almost freeze on the spot. In my mind, my first reaction was to ask her to remove that piece of toilet paper and explain it only belongs in the bathroom. I didn't want other children to laugh or parents to snicker at her. But, as an Executive and Life Coach, I have learned some things about these hot button issues. When something gets you going, there is often more to it than meets the eye. I stayed curious to see what else might be there.
I asked myself, "So what if other people laugh?" Who made them judges of my daughter? Was the toilet paper scarf hurting her? No. "Okay, keep looking Carey-Ann. What is it I fear?" If children and other parents laugh at her, what would that say about me? Let's make this about me because she is completely happy with what she's wearing so this isn't even about her. Perhaps others would think I was not a good parent. Now we are getting somewhere! So if my daughter wears something I deem inappropriate, this is more about a fear of what others think of me. When I can see that for what it really is, it prompts me to continue digging. Continue Reading
Quote of the Day: "As mothers and daughters, we are connected with one another. My mother is the bones of my spine, keeping me straight and true. She is my blood, making sure it runs rich and strong. She is the beating of my heart. I cannot now imagine a life without her." Kristin Hannah, author
Carey-Ann Oestreicher (pronounced O-striker), Chief Engagement Officer for Potential Unlimited, works with individuals and companies to help them reach their full potential.
Nominated as one of Canada's Most Powerful 100 Women, Carey-Ann has held a variety of senior positions including vice-president level and she has worked in industries such as: financial services, automotive and transportation, publishing, cosmetics and fashion.
Carey-Ann's media appearances include CTV's Canada AM, Global TV's Survivor series, CBC NewsWorld, TSN. She has also been quoted in numerous publications such as The Globe and Mail, Chatelaine and Canadian Business magazines.